How To Crush Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

Today I want to talk about something that weighs heavily on my heart. Something that, in psychological terms, means 'preventing the development or expression of the self.'

I'm talking about the ultimate dream killer, aka self-limiting beliefs

In life and in business, we have them. I know I do:

"I'm not a runner."

"I'll never make $300,000 a year."

"I'm not a good cook."

"I'll never be as successful as ________"

"I'm terrible with money."

The bigger and bolder our dreams, the more frequently these kinds of thoughts creep in. They are, quite literally, the roadblock between us and our ability to reach our fullest potential.

It's insane when you think about it. Why in the world would we ever want to put a cap on ourselves? Why would we want to tell ourselves that something is not within our reach?

Am I "not a runner" like I say I am, or is it that I've never taken the time to try to be a runner, and that if I tried, I could crush that belief?

Every day, people challenge themselves and journey out of their comfort zone. I know deep down that if I really tried and really wanted to, I could buckle down, start using my Couch to 5K app, and train myself to run the full 3.1 miles without stopping. The thought of running a marathon freaks me out, but breaking down this "I'm not a runner" belief and turning it into a small, achievable goal feels more realistic and doable.

I challenge you to set a timer for 10 minutes and take a close look at your own situation. While the clock is ticking, jot down as many statements as possible that you hold a resistant, self-limiting thought about. The more honest you can be, the longer the list will get. Maybe you'll end up with 22 things on your list. Maybe you'll only have 10.

For each item, dig deep and get to the heart of each one. Ask yourself, 

'Is this statement genuinely, authentically true?' 

And as a follow-up question, 'How can I crush this self-limiting belief?'

More often than not, our self-limiting beliefs are veiled in un-truths. They're veiled in fear, in discomfort, inside of a well-oiled mindset that got us to think these things in the first place.

So how do you tackle them?

1. Reframe Your Mindset

This may very well be the most difficult thing on this list to do, especially if your thoughts are deeply rooted. Take money for example. Money is a mindset. And mindset is a choice. You can choose to live in a scarcity mentality and undervalue your worth, or you can take the bull by the horns and hit the financial goals you've been yearning about.

2. Experiment with Regular Practice or Training

Small goals are more accessible, so start there. Dream big, but know that every big goal usually has a series of tiny "mini goals" within them. If it's a matter of putting the sneakers to the pavement or the fingers to the keyboard, just do it. Whether you start with half a mile, or 500 words a day, you'll get better and better over time.

3. Patience

Some of the best and dreamiest things in life (like success, or saving up to buy that coveted Louis Vuitton bag) take time. We can't expect to magically hit 200,000 pageviews on our website next month if we're currently getting 100. But we can chip away week by week and incrementally make progress. 

4. Determination and Persistence 

Quitting is the easy way, but sticking things out leads to greatness. It's the select few that hang in there longer than the rest that get results!

We all have crazy ambitious goals and it's normal to have some level of resistance around them, especially if they scare us. But that doesn't mean that they aren't possible. 

We all have the power to change what we tell ourselves!
Let's Chat: Let me in on one of your self-limiting beliefs. 
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